Not a rant, a request
Sep. 5th, 2010 09:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fluffyllamaToday I caught myself rolling my eyes as I scrolled past someone enthusiastically promoting their latest OTP, and I hate that. I'm in no position to judge a complete stranger's reasons for choosing what interests them, and I don't like it when people want to tell everyone what they *should* be writing. I do, however, think it's good to question my own preferences and assumptions when I see people bring up neglected characters/pairings/genres or whatever.
So the questioning is what this is about, though it's about a use of words.
Spoons.
I don't like using the term myself, as it makes me feel labelled sick. (My brain, sometimes it makes no sense.) So maybe I notice it more, I don't know. I think it's great for its original purpose, and I like that people know what it means, and when I see people use it about themselves I assume they have a good reason to do so.
But if your post is along the lines of 'I did a full day of work and omg long hours and overtime too, ran a marathon at lunchtime, cured cancer in my coffee break, and astronaut training tonight was soooo tough and I was going to finish that fic update you're waiting for tonight but I'm sorry I have no spoons left'... then maybe consider that it might not be the most appropriate phrase to use.
Everything is relative, but really. You're allowed to be tired after all that. And needless to say, I'm jealous of the astronaut training. *g*
So the questioning is what this is about, though it's about a use of words.
Spoons.
I don't like using the term myself, as it makes me feel labelled sick. (My brain, sometimes it makes no sense.) So maybe I notice it more, I don't know. I think it's great for its original purpose, and I like that people know what it means, and when I see people use it about themselves I assume they have a good reason to do so.
But if your post is along the lines of 'I did a full day of work and omg long hours and overtime too, ran a marathon at lunchtime, cured cancer in my coffee break, and astronaut training tonight was soooo tough and I was going to finish that fic update you're waiting for tonight but I'm sorry I have no spoons left'... then maybe consider that it might not be the most appropriate phrase to use.
Everything is relative, but really. You're allowed to be tired after all that. And needless to say, I'm jealous of the astronaut training. *g*
Re: Popping in from /network
Date: 2010-09-06 06:43 am (UTC)And yeah - I've had arguments with people asking how long they've been me for. Because frankly, I've been me pretty much 24/7 since 1986. There was a small moment in 1992 where I had a bad reaction to medication and thought I was a cat, but otherwise, I've had a lot of practice at being me.
And that's the other thing - people saying you're being negative. I would like to find and beat the person who came up with "There's no such thing as can't!" Overly cheery little [censored]. There are many such things as can't. I hate people saying "can't" when they mean "don't wanna" - for crying out loud, own your choices! - but when I say can't, I mean it to a reasonable degree.
Re: Popping in from /network
Date: 2010-09-06 12:43 pm (UTC)I heard "There's no such thing as can't!" or Can't means won't SO many times growing up that if anyone tries that one on me now I will not be responsible for my actions. I'll just be hoping there's internet access in jail!
Re: Popping in from /network
Date: 2010-09-06 03:15 pm (UTC)And yeah, that's the kind of thing that makes me want to kneecap people. See how they feel about it then.